and very, very often, self care is not plants and ice rollers and fluffy blankets of peace.
it’s standing over your kitchen sink and crying while doing the dishes because you just want to go back to bed but the dishes need done. and you don’t know why you’re crying but you’re trusting you need it. and you aren’t listening to the music that pulls you into a spiral; you’re listening to some cheerful shit your friend sent you. it’s getting up and staring at your fridge and closing your eyes and then cooking yourself food even though you hate it and it’s miserable. because you know that you’d cook for your friend, and you are trying to befriend yourself. it’s dragging yourself into the shower because you know you’ll feel better afterwards. it’s doing mundane tasks with patience, cursing under your breath, trying desperately to give yourself grace. grace is the beginning of care. care is the beginning of love.
we think it’s supposed to be peace and yet the most powerful self care moments are when we hate everything but especially ourselves. and life does not feel worth the loving.
to look into that pain and yet choose to care for yourself in however many pieces you are — that is care. love. grace. trust. belief. it hurts because it’s love where there was no love before. it heals because it believes there will be love, one day, soon.
We need like “unclench your jaw” posts but for eye strain. Like
Go look at something 20ft away for 20 seconds.
take off your glasses if you wear them for 20 seconds
Recommended by my optometrist
Look at something 20 feet away, then 10, then 5, then one, then if you can your nose.
Repeat twice, then again without glasses.
Face forward look out of the corner of your eye. As far as you can look. Slowly move to the other corner. Repeat twice.
Look down as far as you can. Slowly look up. Repeat twice.
Roll eyes twice.
Close eyes for five minutes.
I do this every day usually at my halfway point. My migraines went away. My vision go better. Honestly stretching my eyes as she put it feels great too.
1eos:
the glorification of your 20s and fear of anything else has got to stop. mainly bc your 20s is quite literally the worst decade of your life the idea that ppl think you peak at 25 has me so sad for them
You. Are. worthy.
Even if you never drive. Even if you need help with basic tasks. Even if you need help with hygiene. Even if you’ll never work. Even if you’ll need help for the rest of your life. You’re. Still. Worthy.
Don’t let anyone tell you that you’re useless, or that you don’t deserve certain things. You’re amazing, and I see you.
Me: “I cleaned my whole kitchen yesterday”
Neurotypical friends: “okay? Do you want a medal or something?”
Neurodivergent friends: “omg. I’m so proud of you!! Gold star! Cleaning kitchens sucks! Send me a picture!!! Look at them counters. Treat yourself, you deserve it”
broe i am just s
i am just sitting here
[IMAGE ID: a four panel comic. The art is simplistic with very slightly shaky lines. the only colors are blue and white. Panel 1 shows a cartoonish simplified human figure pacing in circles. Their eyes are stylized as googly-eyes-like spheres on their head. The text reads “anxious anxious anxious why am i SO ANXIOUS”. Panel 2 shows a close up of their face. Their head is angled towards the sky, their hands are pulling at their face in a way that pulls down the eyelids, and there are tears in their eyes. The text reads, “what am i doing WRONG!!!!!” Panel 3 shows them frozen hunched over, arms dangling loosely, with what can be interpreted as a look of horrified realization on their face. The text reads, “(existing without permission)”. Panel 4 shows them running away with their back to the viewer. The text is in all caps and stylized loudly. It reads, “EYAAAAHHHH!!” /END ID]
the saddest thing about life is that tattoos cost many money. oh and traveling? also costs many money. video games? many money. starting a new hobby? usually many money. concerts? so many money and also good luck even getting tickets. going out and getting a fancy beverage? you know the drill.
at least cupping one boob in your hand is still free
